Finding My “Type”

Coming from a young woman who has never had a real boyfriend, relationship or even her first kiss, dating is a topic that certainly doesn’t hit close to home. However, as I grow older I learn more and more about when/if that day happens, how it should happen and why.

Of course as a young girl I always day dreamed of that knock-you-off-your-feet moment when Prince Charming comes and steals your heart for life and live happily ever after. As many people know, many times it doesn’t happen that way. To this day it is still something that seems ideal in my mind, but not completely realistic.

Throughout high school I figured my time would come to find that special guy who would sweep me off my feet, but that moment never came. I began to ponder if something was wrong with me, if it was my looks or my personality. I began to pray for my future husband. And while these things still sometimes run through my mind, as a college sophomore, I now realize there is something much bigger that controls when/if I ever have a relationship with a man… God.

I have recently came to the conclusion that not all relationships start as relationships. Many start with a simple friendship. The older I get, the more this fact seems ideal and realistic. Jumping right into something with someone you hardly know is a recipe for disaster, unless God of course is leading the relationship from the very beginning.

Although this post is about relationships, I don’t want you all to think that’s what I’m obsessed with. My desire is for the Lord’s will to be fulfilled in my life. A relationship can seriously affect one’s desire to follow God in a positive or negative way, and I pray that God will just guide me where He would have me to be. Without God’s guidance, it’s like driving a car blindfolded. There would be no clear purpose or reasoning for a relationship other than pure selfishness.

Many people have often asked me what I look for in a potential boyfriend. Of course we all have our own “types”. But my “type” has changed over my lifetime. It has varied from looks, to material things, to the amount of education he may have. Now I can honestly say none of those things really matter as long as he is man who loves the Lord. His looks don’t matter (hygiene does! Hahaha), his job, his level of education and everything else that will one day fade away doesn’t amount to anything in the great scheme of things. I want a man who chooses the Lord’s will above all else. One who will choose going to church over going to work on Sunday. One who will be a good spiritual leader in a family. A humble spirit and a kind heart. A man who respects and trusts The Lord. A man who loves The Lord more than he will ever love me.

It is sometimes easy to get impatient with God and his timing for the right one, but He knows what He’s doing. He has a perfect plan for all of His children and knowing that fact makes it easier to wait. Whatever His plan for my life, I will be grateful and thankful. Until that time arrives, I will continue to pray for my future husband and praise my God for His many blessings. It is simply amazing to know that God, the one with the most power holds all our worries and cares in His hands. 💜