Many of us are familiar of the Proverbs 31 woman, even if we have not heard it phrased as such. I had not until about a week ago while reading Set-Apart Femininity and it began to stick with me. The 31st chapter of Proverbs speaks of the many joys and duties that comes with being a woman, whether physically, emotionally or spiritually. It gives us an idea of how to act, feel and live our lives in the way it would be pleasing to the Lord. It tells of a woman being under subjection to her Master. However, the world looks at this model of a woman, turns its initial meaning upside down and portrays it as degrading and oppressive to women.
I just recently finished my freshman year of college and this past spring semester I took an Introduction to Women’s Studies course. Now, just to clarify, I did not want to take this course, but my academic advisor told me to because it was easy and it would fill up one of the two diversity courses required for the nursing program. So, with much excitement (not) I enrolled in the course. I dreaded this course because it not only was a boring and silly topic to me, but also a very liberal and non-biblical one as well. We all know what feminism is all about. It’s purpose is to glorify women, make them equal to men and allow them all the same opportunities as any other being on the planet.
As the course came to an end and we began to go over the last few chapters of the semester such topics like religion and reproductive rights came into the picture. As I read and studied the chapter over women and religion in the book for the class, I found myself getting very angry and upset with the the author’s feelings regarding women and religion. They particularly beat down Southern Baptists because they were being oppressive to women. Coming from a Baptist background I took much offense to this. It stated that women in this religion are forced to keep quiet in many activities and refused the right to lead, preach and pastor churches because of their gender. It said that Southern Baptists believe that the women should be in subjection to their husbands. We will just say that I let my professor know that I was Missionary Baptist myself and was not allowed those same opportunities listed under Southern Baptist. BUT that I have never once felt oppressed or discriminated against because I wasn’t allowed to preach or lead a church. I am not forced to keep quiet, I can choose when I speak and know when I shouldn’t. I also told her that I don’t mind being in subjection to a man in my future, as long as he respects me. I don’t mind any of this because it is in the Bible and inscribed in God’s law.
The world’s idea of freedom is all wrong. Feminism is all about gaining freedom and equality for everyone. But as Christian women we find true freedom when we follow the laws and the will of God. A freedom that the rest of the world has never experienced or will never understand. Living these laws out to our upmost allows us a closer, more fulfilling relationship with Him. Yes, Proverbs 31 may paint a picture of a housewife, and the world may see this as degrading and stressful. But if you read on in the chapter it begins to give special characteristics to this woman; “Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.” Proverbs 31:25-26 This life is fulfilling for this woman. It gives her strength, valor, wisdom, kindness, honor, and humbleness all because she is under subjection to her Master. Subjection is very far from oppression if you ask me. It’s a blessing.
Striving to be a Proverbs 31 woman may be a challenging task, but it is a gift from God. Just like with everything else, there are good days and there are bad days. But living a life for God, at least you know He is there to pick you up when you fall. Nothing can be any worse than what His son went through in order to give us an opportunity to receive salvation. And I guarantee that living a life apart from Him will be more miserable and unsatisfying. I don’t care if I end up being a housewife under subjection to my husband. If it is my Father’s will, I want it to come to fruition.